Questions & Answers

I invite and strongly urge you (and your divorced boyfriend if at all possible) to speak with one of our pastors about this. He will be able to learn more details about the previous marriage, the divorce, the circumstances, the matter of repentance if appropriate, and several other things.

You ask, "Can someone who has been divorced get remarried in the church?" Yes, under certain circumstances, this can be done and frequently is done. It is confusing and unwise language to say that a divorced person is still married. It is also inaccurate to say God does not recognize divorces. I suggest that your parents also speak with the pastor. They obviously care about you, your relationship to God, and God's teachings regarding marriage, divorce, and remarriage. They could use some guidance and clarification on what the Bible teaches.

At the heart of these situations is the matter of godly repentance following a divorce and when contemplating marriage (or remarriage). Full repentance, involving a Christ-centered, unconditional pardon, along with sincere sorrow for sin is not optional but what we seek above all else. So should you and your boyfriend.